The Abandoned Cart Myth: What Cyber Monday Reveals About Power, Pressure, and Real Resistance

Cyber Monday arrives each year with the same choreography: bold countdowns, a tidal wave of “last chance” messaging, and the familiar undertow of engineered urgency. It’s not subtle. It’s not supposed to be. These systems are built to keep attention narrowed, choices accelerated, and clicks flowing.

This year, a social media trend has been circulating the idea that if you load up your online cart and walk away, you can somehow “hurt” the corporations. It’s framed as a tiny act of rebellion, a wink at the machine. A digital version of folding your arms and saying, “Not today.”

It feels good. It’s clever.
And it’s not how the system works.

What an Abandoned Cart Really Is

Leaving items in an online cart doesn’t take money from any corporate pocket. Nothing is manufactured on your behalf. No worker is asked to re-shelve anything. No stockroom shifts. There is no wound.

Your hesitation becomes something else entirely: a data point.

Retailers expect high abandonment rates. They build their systems around it. They study it. They use it. Teams spend their days analyzing where you paused, what you clicked, and what might convert you next time.

An abandoned cart doesn’t make the machine flinch; instead, it fuels it.

What Happens Behind the Screens

Here’s the actual chain reaction when you walk away:

Your hesitation is logged as behavioral insight, not sabotage.
Automated marketing begins: reminders, follow-up emails, the ads that trail you online.
Nothing is held or reserved; inventory carries on untouched.
A few dashboards dip slightly, but the system keeps humming.

It’s ordinary, predictable, expected.

So if the abandoned cart isn’t a blow to corporate greed, why does the trend resonate so strongly right now?

The Symbolism Matters

People are feeling squeezed – by inflation, by relentless sales cycles, by a culture that treats buying as participation. Cyber Monday has become less about deals and more about a yearly behavioral ritual built to trigger speed over intention.

The impulse to push back, even symbolically, tells a story.

It says: I notice the tactics.
I feel the pressure.
And I’m not sure I want to play anymore.

That instinct is important. But the meaningful resistance doesn’t live in the cart. It lives in the pause.

Where Real Resistance Shows Up

If people want to shift the landscape, there are pressure points that actually matter:

Choosing to buy less – as a practice, not a holiday exception.
Supporting small and local businesses where your money has a visible impact.
Buying used, borrowing, repairing, and trading.
Curating experiences instead of accumulation.
Treating attention as a resource, not something to hand over every time a company rings the bell.

These choices move markets. They reshape incentives. They influence how future systems are built.

A Strange Mirror for the Season

Cyber Monday reveals a lot about modern systems: one massive, coordinated effort to shape behavior. But it also reveals the counterforce of millions of small moments where people hesitate, question, or step back.

The abandoned cart trend won’t topple corporate greed. It was never going to. But it points toward something more compelling: the quiet rise of awareness.

People are beginning to see the machinery.
They’re noticing the pressure.
And they’re reclaiming the right to choose their own pace.

Corporations don’t fear abandoned carts. They fear consumers who stop playing by their script.

That’s where the shift begins.

Read more in my Medium article titled Leaving Items Abandoned in Your Cart Won’t Hurt Corporations — But Something Else Might

Cyndi Coon is a time traveler and rule-bender, nerding out for good using data, science and curious questions as an Applied Futurist, author, creative, ecosystem builder, facilitator, producer, researcher, storyteller and publisher for: governments, the military, higher education, private partnerships, enterprise, and industry. Cyndi is the Founder and Principal Futurist at Applied Futures Lab, Founder of Laboratory5, and Co-founder of Arizona State University’s Threatcasting Lab and Press, and is the co-founder at Threatcasting.ai. Cyndi is the co-author of Threatcasting (2021), Futurecasting (2026) and the author of numerous reports, articles and book chapters. Founder and Publisher at Turkey Hill Press.She is an Affiliate at the Center for Emergency Management & Homeland Security. Chief Media Officer for Content Evolution. She leads the i4j (global innovation for jobs workforce) and Coolabilities communities, promoting inclusive and forward-thinking solutions. She is a Web 3 advisor and a Future AI Mindset expert. Connect with Cyndi at Applied Futures Lab Linktree or LinkedIn.

Summer at the library

Since I learned to read I remember spending summers at my local library. Last summer I spent in residency at the Drummond Island, MI Library and was inspired to create new works during a summer at a library.  My girls have been enrolled in summer reading programs since birth.  This summer was to be the first year my oldest daughter is of age to officially volunteer for the summer reading program. But that is not to be. We fully support continued closures of all public spaces during this pandemic and she will have next summer.

This got me thinking however about how all of us library-goers will get through a summer without our local library activities. Our library has a coffee shop and a used shop. We love to putter around and discover new things. I will miss bumping into displays the thoughtful librarians have pulled together because they understand readers and how our likes are complicated. But the continued closure of our local libraries won’t keep us from reading. Monday, June 1st is the kick-off of the Summer Reading program. Check out your local library online to sign up for their summer reading program. You can still borrow e-books from the library and if you can’t live without a real book call up your local book store. We have the amazing Changing Hands bookstore in Phoenix – if you don’t have a local book store order from Indie Bound online.

Happy Summer Reading! I have a pretty high stack of books I plan to get through this summer but I am always open to reading suggestions.

Starfish Place

The needs are so great. We help with those most urgent first.

The women and their children at the Starfish Place, a housing community in Phoenix for human trafficking survivors, will run out of food next week.

That means 15 women and children, families, will not have food next week.

Join me if you are able  –  QR code and Venmo on the image. All funds go to buy groceries for these families.
Everyone take care out there